Friday, April 19, 2019
Gratitude and Choices in this Spring Holiday Time
Unconditional love is often touted as the ultimate solution for a perfect life, but as much as it is a blessing it also comes with a caution. The joy of knowing that you are loved totally and unconditionally brings comfort & stability and allows you to truly be yourself, without sensor. The caution is to always be mindful that it is easy to take for granted, that person with whom you are so sure. Be careful with your words and actions, some wounds go very deep. Take time to be grateful for the precious gift of unconditional love. We sometimes give the best of ourselves to those who are our acquaintances, as we try to protect our public persona, leaving the drained, tired and unmotivated self for those we love the most. Ask yourself….who matters most to me? Take the time to know what, and who, makes your heart sing.
Happiness does not come from spending most of your life just getting through the day or waiting for those two vacation weeks a year when you can ‘enjoy life’. Your life is not meant to be crammed into a few weeks a year while you just ‘go through the motions’ for the other 50 weeks. Money is important, I get that, but all the money in the world will never make up for a hollow life full of distant acquaintances, working at a job that does not stir your passion and social media ‘friends’. Finding joy in the simple things is the key. Anyone can have a great time on a Hawaiian holiday, but the truly happy person is the one who finds joy in their daily routines, their family & friends and the peace that comes from experiencing ‘alone time’ in silence and tranquility. It is in this state of silence and tranquility that we come to really know ourselves. What makes you happy? A simple question, but one that many of us have trouble answering. What activities are so enjoyable for you that you lose track of time? Which people will you turn your schedule upside down to accommodate because you feel so good in their company? Do you smile every time you walk into your home…if not, why not.
During the holiday times of the year, we are reminded to give thanks for our bounty and blessings. This holiday ritual can bring us joy and peace, but for some people this is difficult because their memories do not bring them warm feelings, but instead bring anxious thoughts creating physical reactions. We can not change the past but we can take steps to make our lives more peaceful. Be careful not to let your mind gather unrelated experiences and create anxious, pseudo real ‘memories’ or to anticipate the negativity that is so prevalent in our society. Make new holiday traditions including only people, with whom you can be authentic. Try different holiday foods, different holiday rituals, different holiday traditions.
Your life lies ahead of you, create that life in a way that makes you glad to wake up each morning. Each day is a new beginning in which you can define what happiness means to you and surround yourself with those who support that vision. Remember that you will see and hear what you expect to hear and see. Expect joy, expect peace, expect happiness.
Namaste my friends, and until next time……Happy Holiday.